I can’t honestly explain why, but sex IS, and always has been, such a taboo subject. Not only in our society, but in relationships as well. Honestly, I think you SHOULD Be Talking About Sex With Your Partner. Which is why I’m here!
While I don’t believe that sex is THE most critical part of a relationship, it IS pretty important. I’m not saying that you need sex to have a robust and healthy relationship. On the contrary; the reasons/tips below also apply if you’ve decided not to have sex.
Whether or not you are just starting in your relationship, or have been married/together for years, it’s important to have discussed and KEEP having the discussion, with your partner.
Why You Should Be Talking About Sex With Your Partner
Opens Communication & Trust
Look, if you can get past the difficult part of starting the discussion, you can literally, talk about anything.
Talking about sex may make you feel a little vulnerable at first, trust me, I get it. But once it starts, it’s easy to keep the momentum going. And it’s LIBERATING.
Your partner will now not only know what you want & need, or what you may want to try, but it shows them that you entrust them completely. Being able to 100% trust your partner to discuss such an intimate topic is ENLIGHTENING.
Aside from that, you need to be on the same page about protection, pregnancies, etc. And hopefully, those discussions have already happened!
Intimacy
The misconception that intimacy = sex and sex = intimacy irks me! You can have both. Separate, or together. They don’t necessarily go hand in hand.
Talking about sex is a special thing. These have been some of the most intimate conversations I’ve had, and things I’ve done. You are opening up and trusting your partner to support you completely, without reservations, with no holding back.
It’s actually, quite beautiful.
I won’t guarantee, because guaranteeing anything is not my thing, but I can say I firmly believe that having just one discussion will bring you and your partner closer.
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You Can Try New Things & Get What You Want
Be honest – are you 100% satisfied in the bedroom? Honest to goodness, fully fulfilled and have ZERO complaints? If so, great!
Now, what about your partner?
Discussing with your partner the things you like or dislike will help with that. It not only brings you together on a more intimate level, but you also get yours too! And yes, some may take it personally, at the end of the day it’s about complete satisfaction for both of you.
Not to mention, when you’re open about the things you want to try, or any fantasies you might have – such as toys, role-playing, etc. you might be surprised at what your partner is interested in too and willing to try. It opens up whole new world possibilities.
You never really know until you bring it up!
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3 Comments
I absolutely agree with this! Even one night stands should know about what interests you and how they can best pleasure you and how you can do the same for them. If you can’t talk about it, you aren’t ready to do it! Thanks for sharing!
My partner and I talk about it all the time, even from our first time together. It’s something he is very passionate about and although I found it difficult at first, now I am completely comfortable with it and it makes a huge difference to our relationship.
Like your post says it really is so valuable to our relationship, I highly recommend x
I totally agree with this! These conversations are super important to have 🙂