So, you decided to brave it and head back for my Random Rants post. Get some popcorn or coffee (or tea. I said that for you Danielle ;)) OR both, to each his own, hang on and enjoy!
Please be aware that some of the content mentioned may not be suitable to persons that are easily offended.
Since I have started blogging, there are a few things I have learned. Or discovered, if you will. Some epiphany style, others from just reading other blogs or actually being TOLD ( nicely, thank the stars) about random shit that happens in the blogger world. Some.. are pretty.. well, common sense. Some made me say “Oooh, yes.. that makes sense.” Others… Kinda blow my mind, make my eyes twitch and just piss me off.
Off ALL these things, there is just ONE that I can not get over. The freakin DRAMA. I don’t know WHY it baffles me so much. Since it’s everywhere. School. Work. Home. Family. I just never thought there would be SO MUCH. I mean, it’s BOOKS. How can you possibly make BOOKS complicated and full of drama?
OK. It’s not the books. It’s our OPINIONS about the books. The Authors. The jealously. And all the other things that go along with blogging. And I guess when you throw a bunch of passionate, opinionated crazies in a room, some shit is bound to go down. Regardless of the content.
Let’s start somewhere where pretty much everyone agrees. Which is probably.. half the drama.
I’m sure everything I am about to say has been said before. It’s not NEWS news.
NEVER, NOT ONCE had the thought crossed my mind that an Author would disrespect, bash and HARASS a blogger for a negative review. When I first saw a discussion on Goodreads about it, I was seriously rendered speechless. After gathering my bearings, I thought “WHO THE HELL DOES THAT?!” and “WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!” And…
And it happens All.The.Time
Yes, naive I know. But in my defense, unless things get WAY out of hand, usually non bloggers know NOTHING about it. It isn’t advertised (with good reason) it’s not like it’s top news, or something that’s headlined on CNN. And most times, unless you’re right up in the drama (participating or just reading like a nosy hussy, like me) it’s usually deleted. Rather quickly.
It wouldn’t surprise me to discover that some reviewers are hesitant to post negative reviews, or even slightly negative. Which is just stupid. Not THEM. But because we, as bloggers, should be able to post what the hell we want, without the fear of being disrespected and frowned upon. You can have a negative review without bashing or being harsh.(more on this below) It’s called constructive criticism. And I’m not gonna lie; I’ve jumped on the wagon when it comes to banning. For the simple fact, when it comes to these particular authors, OUR opinions as READERS are, obviously, not respected.
So to you Authors that love to bash, I say this; Not everyone is going to like your book. This is OK. Negative reviews come with the territory of being a published author. Have some class. Annnnd, negative or not, it’s still free publicity. Because some people DO pick up a book that their friends didn’t like.
(Listen to Jack. He has rum. Usually)
BUT, in the same token; if they are offended or upset by a review, why can’t they say it bothers them? Isn’t their right to say something/someone had offended them? I mean, without the bashing of course. I just honestly don’t see WHY everyone frowns upon an author speaking their opinion.
It should be obvious that I’m gonna say that bloggers are the other half. Maybe more than half. Since there are so MANY of us, all with different perspectives, opinions and what not. Yes, authors create their own uproar but bloggers create their fair share as well.
We’re all nosy. Admit it. I mean, everyone wants to know what’s going on. (raises hand) Everyone hates feeling left out (raises hand). To me, this isn’t the issue. The issue is most don’t know when to stop, when to leave things be and just shut up. There comes a time when you need to just let it rest. Let things GO. Walk away and move on.
But that can’t/won’t happen. You know why? Because it boils down to having YOUR say in the matter, or having the last word. Somewhere, around the blog sphere, someone is writing a post you may not agree with or is talking about a book, whose opinion you may not agree with. This is OK. It’s when the attacking starts. The pot stirring. The “what did that b*tch say?” It seems saying something hateful, kickin ’em while they’re down or just wanting to put your two cents in, is all too common. Not just that- throwing yourself into the mayhem just to be a part of the drama and show your ass.
Hey! You know what that sounds like? HIGH.SCHOOL.
(*sigh* makes me sad to shove Kim in your face)
Yes, we are entitled to our opinions. Hell, I’m driving that freedom of speech bus- But there is a LINE people. A line between being opinionated (even very, very opinionated) wanting to add yours to a discussion and just being straight out mean and hateful. Not everyone is going to agree. You can discuss a book/author, you can have a civil conversation or debate, without DRAMA. Does it ever cross your mind, that every action causes a RE-action? Therefor, someone is also going to RE-act to what YOU say? Which in turn, makes it worse?
It’s just books folks!
If you see a topic or discussion you KNOW is going to make your blood boil, why go read it? If someone rated/reviewed a book differently and you completely disagree, why can’t you be civil about it? If someone is having a discussion or debate, that has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, why join? Come sit by me, get the popcorn be a nosy hussy and watch it unfold. Nothing good comes out of sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong.
There is no right or wrong answer. Quit stirrin the pot and move on. If it doesn’t directly affect you, stay out of it. If you MUST set yourself smack dab in the middle with your two cents; fine. Nothing I, or anyone else says will stop you. But showing your ass, attacking someone for their opinion makes you no better than those authors you so happily bitch about. Which makes you… a.. (fill in the blank)
What’s that saying? Pot, meet kettle.
My point is; show integrity. We are ALL here for the same reason, yes? Don’t hold ANYONE to a standard when you can’t even comply.
And listen to Jack. He has rum. Usually.
Tonyalee is an avid reader, gym junkie, coffee addicted workaholic, and blogger. Be sure to follow on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram for random shenanigans.