*This post is in no way to shame those that love this, and use it on a regular basis. This post is an HONEST expression of my own personal thoughts.
Ah, the infamous #BooksforTrade. If you’re new to the community, this is a way for us readers to trade books to read, and for some to finish their collections of out of print, hard to find, ARCs etc. of specific titles. Quite honestly, I had a love/hate opinion on this tag when it started, and the many others that have branched off of it, but it seems like the more these “programs” come about, the more… dislike I have for them.
I no longer trade, but when I did, I had a mental list of what to look for, and who to/not to trade with. I had maybe…. two good experiences. TWO. Do good trades happen? Of COURSE they do. But, from my personal experience, and from what I’ve seen on the tags & heard even more from people privately.. IDK. I don’t see it?
**I will edit to add that one of my friends said that we don’t usually hear about good trades because they do the trade and go about their business. Which I don’t disagree with. My thoughts are still the same.
Anyway, here are my thoughts:
the “I’ll be picky” & demand
I see this more often than not, “I will be picky for x title”
This REEKS of entitlement, and an undertone of, “I’m better than you.” The fact that you are looking for something VERY RARE is your problem. Don’t dismiss the people who genuinely want to read the book you are trying to “trade”, or want to finish their own collections. Have you heard of PAY IT FORWARD?
Look, if you were getting rid of the book anyway, why are you putting stipulations on WHO gets it, stating you will be picky, and not just TRADE THE BOOK?
asking for new/VERY old titles
Sorry Susan, no one wants your copy of… let’s say, a not so anticipated YA contemp, for HARRY FREAKING POTTER. Are you serious? Those HP collectors ARE PICKY! (lol 🤣)
Again, looking for hard to find books or demand is, your problem. Be realistic on what you are offering to trade.
admitting you have a title but not willing to trade
This is cruel. My friend was looking for a very very old title to finish her collection. And someone came forward that they had it, but wasn’t willing to trade or give it away. Then, why are you here? GTFO.
trading ARCs for Finished Copies
This is just gross in my opinion. Trading FC/ARC for FC/ARC is not being picky. It’s LOGICAL. Oh, and asking for eARCs?? We all do know that this is unethical, yes?
Now, on to #bookishwish
I love the idea behind this tag. GIVING someone a book they’ve wanted just because, is just awesome right? Especially when money may be a concern. Well, my experience says otherwise.
When I posted pics of at least 60 books to share, my DMs flooded. There were plenty that from our conversation and exchange, were really excited for the book/s they asked for. Which is awesome, and this part of my post doesn’t reflect on them at all.
What bothered me, was that if a title was no longer available, they kept asking for other books. And asking and asking and asking. So I did some snooping. These individuals had plenty of books, and access to books. SO why are you asking me for it? This all just really, REALLY rubbed me the wrong way.
I assumed the tag was to give books to those that were more in need, not just to get a book for free?
Fast forward to when most of the books were claimed, and it was time to ship. I was very open that I would do waves of ships. Even at only $2.50-$3.00 a pop, multiply that by 45-60 and it’s EXPENSIVE for a single mom.
Most, were very accommodating. Quite a few, were not. Multiple DMs asking when I was shipping, for a tracking number, etc. And then when it was their turn to receive them, no response. No, “I GOT IT!” No, “thank you!”
Just…. sorry I am not doing that ever again like that. I do browse the tag to see if there are people that want a book that I have, because to me that is what the tag is for. But I no longer post ANYTHING on there. And seeing their Wish-lists? Hard Pass. Greedy people are gross.Honest thoughts on the trading tags. Spoiler: Unpopular Opinion Click To Tweet
I just, don’t like the tags. LOL YES, I’m aware I sound kind of snobby, and you may feel that my thoughts are negative, and our community doesn’t need more “negativity” which, is your prerogative. But, lemme tell you. My thoughts are not singular. I’ve had many MANY discussions behind closed doors about these tags, and I GUARANTEE YOU that I am not the only one that feels this way. They aren’t negative.
- What are your experiences with the trading tags? Good, bad? Share in the comments!
- Agree or disagree with any of my thoughts? Let’s discuss that, too!
Tonyalee is an avid reader, gym junkie, coffee addicted workaholic, and blogger. Be sure to follow on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram for random shenanigans.