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I’ve been sitting on this post for a while now. It’s one of those topics that I have been excited, yet scared, to talk about. For most in the community, it’s a divided topic and one I am READY to tackle.
Remember awhile ago when that I COMMENT BACK “movement” started? You signed up, added the button to your blog, basically promising to return ALL comments on your blog. I don’t mean RESPONDING to those left on your blog. But going to theirs and commenting back.
At the time, I thought this was such a great idea! I was a new(er) blog and trying to break out into the community/world was hard work. There weren’t AS MANY of us then as there is now (which isn’t saying much because it feels like book bloggers are a dime a dozen). To this day, I do feel that this could be a great way for newer blogs to break out in the community and develop friendships with other bloggers.
I don’t think it should be used as a tool to gain comments/page views. I see commenting in a new light. Thus, make me anti-commenting back.
I detest feeling obligated to do ANYTHING. And feeling like I HAVE to comment back on someone’s blog because they commented on mine? Makes me feel some kind of way. I feel like the comments are less original (not meaningful, because they are) and so freaking TIME CONSUMING. That may sound awful – but there was a time when I was getting a lot of comments and it was hard to keep up with. And if I am going to take the time to comment on your blog, then I want to do it because what you posted caught my eye. What you posted sparked something in me worth saying. Not because you said something on mine.
This goes both ways. I don’t want you to feel obligated to comment on my blog because I commented on yours. If my post doesn’t interest you, move on. Seriously, find a blog and/or blog post that will hold your interest and give you something you want. Does his make me sad? Absolutely. But I would rather have 1 loyal follower comment than 100 non-followers who don’t-care-what-I-talk-about-[content] anyway comment.
It’s Not a Conversation
I see this a lot when it comes to opinions about commenting back. But commenting on my blog, and me returning the favor, is not a conversation. You commenting on my blog and my “reply” creates a conversation. I do this often – when I get an email notification that the owner of the blog responded to my comment and I GO BACK and comment again, assuming there is something I want to say. THIS is a conversation, people.
What Do I Even Say?
Listen, there are times when I read a post – I follow many blogs – and there is nothing to say. If I say, “Great review! I felt the same way!” or, “OMG I totally agree, thanks for sharing.” Sparks those comments, (bahaha, funny) of, LEAVE A MEANINGFUL COMMENT or THESE COMMENTS ARE NOT MEANINGFUL or I WON’T COMMENT BACK IF THE COMMENT ISN’T MEANINGFUL. Excuse me, what the crap do you mean, MEANINGFUL? The fact that I took the time to read your post AND I left a comment is meaningful enough, thanks.
Tit for Tat Just Doesn’t Work For Me
Take a guess on how many comments/commentators I lost when I didn’t have the time to visit other blogs because… OMG I have a life? Guess.
At least 90%.
That is SAD. That tells me that either a) my content went down the drain when it came to “meaningful content” or, b) all those people who commented on my blog stopped visiting because I wasn’t returning the favor. This shined the light on my loyal followers.. THAT is more meaningful to me than 20 comments, per post, thank you very much.
That isn’t to say that I don’t EVER return comments. I do. I just don’t make it feel like an obligation – meaning, I save posts for later, note who commented and make a note to at some point, visit. That doesn’t guarantee a comment. I return comments on the ORIGINAL comment (99% of the time). Again, this creates the conversation and this let’s the person know that I saw it, appreciate it and even returned it.
Do I frown on others that do this? Not at all. If this is something that works for you, then hey, more power to you. I am glad that you make it work for you and your blog. However, I’ve noticed that there are some individuals that stop commenting once the favor isn’t returned (see above). And really, that’s not fair. Also, not getting comments doesn’t mean your content isn’t read. Some of the largest blogs out there don’t have many comments but their content is READ.
Don’t get me wrong – I think commenting IS important. It gets you out there. It helps you meet new people. People start to remember you. But the fact that we rely so much on other bloggers for page views and comments makes this such a BIG THING in our community. When I started blogging, I didn’t KNOW there was a community, or rules or this tit for tat thing. I started this blog for me and fellow readers. The fact that so many of my readers are bloggers is a bonus. I can’t speak for other communities, because I am not apart of another one, but it seems like we do things to please other bloggers SO MUCH in order to NOT be forgotten. But that’s a topic for another day.
- What are your general thoughts on commenting back? Do you agree/disagree with any of mine?
- Do you stop commenting on a blog if they don’t return a comment as often?
- How do you feel if someone doesn’t EVER return comments?
- Do you think EVERYONE should return comments?
Tonyalee is an avid reader, gym junkie, coffee addicted workaholic, and blogger. Be sure to follow on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram for random shenanigans.