Hello, hello! welcome back to another Random Rants. Today, I want to talk about….. Love Triangles.
Back in September of 2013 – I posted about love triangles, and what DEFINES a love triangle on the blog. I saw (still see) so many to quickly point out a love triangle when there just isn’t one, nor is there any reason to believe there would be. I don’t want to go back into all those details – today, I was to discuss WHY THEY DON’T BOTHER ME and how some are realistic.
I feel like the love/hate triangle thing is just that, love or hate. Both sides are passionate about their reasons, and I see both sides. But honestly, love is such a… powerful thing. Not one simple thing defines it – and it can be expressed, shown and develop in many different ways. The obvious being loving your family vs children vs friends vs your lover. You love them, in different ways, right?
So why wouldn’t you be able to love two people at the same time, the same way?
That’s doesn’t mean one is better than the other. That doesn’t make you or whomever, a bad person. That doesn’t make it WRONG. That doesn’t mean the love isn’t REAL. Love doesn’t just GO AWAY at the snap of a finger. If you truly love someone, that love may fade but it’ll always be there, in some way shape or form.
Majority of the love triangles that I see are in Young Adult – granted, there are some in new adult and adult books as well, but from what I HAVE READ, they aren’t as common. Now, why is that? I don’t have all the answers – but it’s because teens are growing. They are becoming adults, discovering themselves and finding their place in the world. They make mistakes. They love deeply. They change their mind about everything, all the dang time. Think back to high school – how long were the average break ups before either a) they got back together or b) find someone else? Does that mean they didn’t care for the person? No.
I feel like my explanations are sub par – but I guess what I am trying to say but not is that I don’t put love in this singular bubble with a specific definition and RULES. It just IS. It has a mind of its own. You can’t control it. You just FEEL it.
Tell Me Your Thoughts
- How do you feel about love triangles? Do you agree or disagree?
- What is your favorite love triangle you have read in YA?
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