Random Rants and Rambling #34 | Ain’t No One Got Time For That

Hello, hello!

I feel like I am getting in a funk when it comes to discussion posts. (I’m in a funk with everything, but that’s a discussion for another day.) Maybe because I had an influx of ideas and shoved on you all in the same month? *shrug* WHO KNOWS. But it’s been hard thinking about what, if anything, I wanted to talk about. And then, it hit me.


Two things sparked this post. ONE —  I saw a post about HOW TO BE A GOOD BLOGGER. (Okay. That’s a lie because, that’s not the title of the post but PREACH IT SISTER.) It’s how I interpreted the post – and it really got me thinking about TIME, how much of it I have to dedicate to blogging/reading and how that affects my blog.

And TWO — I’ve been thinking about this a lot since Jessica and I are creating schedules to hold each other accountable when it comes to ALL THE THINGS blogging. In any case — more on this in another day, too.

This post I read was mainly about commenting, being active on social media, sharing pictures… I mean, everything. I will agree to the point that it’s IMPORTANT to have a presence, somewhere, because with how large the community IS and how much it continues to grow, it’s easy to be forgotten. But, I just.don’t.have.the.time.

I pride myself in how well I juggle my home life, work and my blog. But as most of you know, this time of year is INSANE at work — with me working 50-60+ hours a week. Then there’s band, lacrosse, the kids IN GENERAL not to mention, spending quality time with my husband and time for myself. It’s A LOT. And typically, I handle all of it really well. Add in the book marks that I am now selling, it’s A LOT more. (Oh yes, and don’t forget my fantasy football league!)

Sometimes, I envy those people who don’t… have a lot of other things in their life going on that they have to take care of and can spend COUNTLESS hours reading and blogging. I believe that is great. And those individuals have time to get themselves out there and really create a name for themselves. Me?

Ain’t no one got time for that.

But you know what? I am OKAY with that. Yes, it bums me out that my stats decrease when I am less “active” on other blogs, (which is frustrating, because I am still posting content regularly and your visit to someone’s blog should not be based on how often they visit you. Again, topic for another day.) It bums me out that I can’t spend a lot of time chatting with my bookish peeps, especially since quite a few I consider my best friends. But I love my life. I am happy with my life. And I do a great job and handling everything that I do — I shouldn’t feel BAD about that.

And I don’t.

Anyway. My point is? I am busy. So while I may not be on Twitter all the time, I may take days or weeks to comment back —  I am still here. And NO ONE should feel obligated or feel pressured into doing something because it’s what other people are doing or what works for other people.


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12 thoughts on “Random Rants and Rambling #34 | Ain’t No One Got Time For That

  1. Katheryn @ Perks of being a BookNerd

    Great post! With my blog, I rarely do anything on it because I don’t know WHAT to put! I don’t understand how some bloggers can spend hours and hours blogging while I’m like “wtf are you even doing?” I struggle to come up with ideas. I do spend more time reading, however. But I sympathise with you anyway, as it can’t be easy juggling so much.

    1. tonyalee

      Thank you!!

      If I had the time, there are many things that I could/would do. redo my design, find new blogs, etc the problem, for me, isn’t content. I do think there IS a line, in a sense, on HOW MUCH time is needed ya know?? lol

  2. Kate @ Ex Libris

    I find myself constantly comparing my blog to blogs where the owner either doesn’t work or doesn’t have kids, or just generally has a lifestyle that allows them to have way more time to blog. It’s tough not to fall into that trap. I want my blog to be successful and well respected but I have to live my life, too. It can be tough to balance, but you are right – no one should feel pressured. It should still be fun….
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    1. tonyalee

      I compare it too! And I do get bitter sometimes, because some people have ALL the time in the world and I sit here and watch my stats decrease because I CAN’T be active. But alas. lol

      For the most part, I don’t feel pressured. But at the same time, those that say, “well, if they wont take the time for ME I wont visit their blog!” It makes me sad. 🙁

  3. Krys

    I totally understand where you’re coming from, but at least you’re getting comments. I get visits on a regular basis but nobody comments. Stats mean nothing to me, and I do enjoy the blogging, but I just wish somebody would say something! But anyhow – time. Yes! I’m not a super busy person, but I’m always awespired by others who manage to have more than enough personalized content that isn’t meme features to fill their pages. I clearly lack in the department of intelligible things to say/come up with. I don’t have children, and no major priorities that could hinder me from finishing a book, but my problem is a lack of motivation.
    – Krys
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    1. tonyalee

      I get some comments. But nothing like when I am “active” It does kind of suck when you know you are getting visits but no one does comment. Then you think, “was I not engaging enough!?”

      I think one I get in the swing of things, it will be easier.

  4. Michelle @ Pink Polka Dot Books

    It’s really hard to juggle it all right?? When I was working full time, I was so terrible at blogging, but even though I’m not now, I still have times where I just don’t feel like it. I love blogging and reading, but sometimes I just want to watch Netflix or sports games and go to bed. I am also terrible at Twitter. Sometimes I get so jealous at people who have their blogs posting new, creative stuff everyday and are constantly on Twitter too. I wonder how it’s possible? I can’t keep up with Twitter convos because I just don’t want to stare at my phone 24/7.
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    1. tonyalee

      Yes exactly. My blog is important to me but it doesn’t consume my life, ya know? Not that there is anything WRONG with that but.

      I like being on twitter (usually) but I am not on all the time like i see others. And it does suck that missing 1-2 days and all the sudden people forget.

  5. Nereyda Gonzalez

    I have no patience or desire to join the twitter world. Like you said, I don’t have time. And if I did, I sure as hell wouldn’t want to spend it on there seeing people beg for arcs and kissing ass anyway…
    I comment on blogs I like and always reply back, even if it takes me a few days. For me, that’s enough and I’m more than fine with it.
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    1. tonyalee

      LOL yes, the begging for ARCs thing is getting SO old. Maybe it’s good people dont’ know me? People only seem to recognize THOSE PEOPLE

      I comment on blogs I like and have something to say with. But there are MANY that do the tit for tat thing and only visit when they get a visit. It’s a long, tiring debate for me on that one.

  6. Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

    I’m with you on this. This time of year is so difficult with back to school stuff (since I homeschool – the rest of the world, is like, “Yay, school!” and I’m thinking, “Yikes! School!!”) and all of the activities that seem to start up. Then I got sick to add to all of that – and I just haven’t been making my rounds like I usually do. It’s really frustrating, but it’s just a fact of life and I’m trying to let it go and just do my best. Nothing else I can do, right? So, go on and do the life thing – we’ll all still be here. 🙂
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