I think it’s safe to say that there are genres (or topics) many of us will not read – for whatever reason. Some, don’t read Young Adult. Others, Erotica. Some might not like overly dark novels about touchy subjects or novels with cheating or a love triangle. For me, there is more to it than just not wanting to read a certain genre, or something about a particular subject. I want to talk about how my REAL LIFE and my life experiences affect what I read. And why.
This is probably the biggest one. See, my husband served for 5 years, 1 of which, he spent in Iraq. The military is not always a glorious thing to be apart of. It’s not all sexy, alpha males with PTSD and scars, looking for THE ONE or even finding THE ONE to heal this heart. Not all military men are “alpha type” – this is such a bad stereo type. They are strong, hardworking, loving men that are partially broken and good at hiding it.
Being apart of the military is about the love of your country and sacrifice. Being away from your loved ones. Watching your friends, family and comrades either get seriously hurt, killed or watching helplessly as they spiral down into depression upon coming home.
No woman or love can fix that.
I’ve seen grown men fall to the ground when a balloon popped, witnessed their night terrors when thunder strikes in the middle of the night. I’ve seen more relationships get torn apart, fellow soldiers take their life and watch as my husband yearns for his friends – both dead and alive – than seeing a “broken” military man finding a woman that’ll heal his wounds. It’s the cold, hard truth and no romance novel will EVER make me change my mind about that.
Yes, I have read a few. Majority of the ones I have personally read, didn’t offend me and were actually written really well. But as an overall consensus? I stay away.
Fluffy Young Adult Contemporaries
It’s nice to read a book that is sweet, cute and just full of fluff, especially after closing a book that has dark elements. Yet –
some of them most of them are just too fluffy and sweet to ever be realistic in my eyes.
I wasn’t a wild child by any means, but I wasn’t innocent either. And to be honest, there weren’t many people I EVER thought were just THAT sweet, innocent and naive. Maybe at 13; even 14. But at 16, 17 and 18? Forget it.
Jessica made some fantastic points in her post about The effects of being a YA reader and teacher. Teens cuss. They have sex. They spread rumors. Even the “sweet” ones aren’t always so innocent. Making a novel too light, too fluffy and too innocent does nothing for me, and in my opinion, teens. It’s just not realistic. Call me jaded.
I think I am officially a no fluff zone.
To be fair – I have only read 2. One, portrayed the girl as a stupid, naive and immature teenager that fits every single teen mom stereo type you can think of. The other, felt like I was reading MY OWN story (shout out to Kristen). It was such a large contrast between the two, my mind is still reeling from just thinking about it.
Pregnancy and being a mom at any age, is hard. Whether you are 17, 27 or 37. Do I think it’s harder for teens? Not necessary. But I do think they are held in a different stigma than someone who followed the go to college, get married and have babies formula every seems to push.
Since I experienced it, both sides, it’s just not something that I can bring myself to read, since the subject is TOO close to me. Realistic or not.
Anything based on a True Story
It’s weird – because I can read about dark, touchy realistic fiction all day. About suicide, rape, child abuse etc. It’s hard, I’m not saying it’s easy to read and it’s hard to even say I ENJOY them; even though I do. But there is an element to the story knowing that THAT particular story is based on true events, that I just can’t do. I just can’t..
There are a few other small elements that make me a little nervous – and there are things that happen that I either automatically agree OR disagree with. But these 4 are the main ones.
Tell Me Your Thoughts
Are there specific genre or topics/subjects in novels you don’t/won’t/can’t read? Why or why not?
Tonyalee is an avid reader, gym junkie, coffee addicted workaholic and blogger. Be sure to follow on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram for random shenanigans.